Our community is reeling from a horribly tragic accident over the weekend–the death of a 4-year-old boy while riding in a car with his mother and older sister. The driver, a woman who works with my wife who I know slightly, reportedly drove her Jeep through a stop sign and was broadsided by a Ford F-150 that had to be traveling at a high rate of speed–judging from the mangled condition of the other vehicle. The mom and sister were both hospitalized, but neither has life-threatening injuries. The passengers of the other vehicle managed to walk away unhurt.
Reaction to the accident has run the gamut from stunned to outraged, with blame cast in every direction possible–the mom, the speed limit, visibility of the stop sign in question, lack of enforcement, blah, blah, blah. I guarantee you that there is enough blame–and guilt–to go around. I can’t even imagine how Charlene–the mom–is coping with the reality of what has happened. The absolute crushing feeling of personal accountability for causing the death of your own child is one for which some can never recover. What about the man whose truck caused the fatal blow? Regardless of legal or other responsibility, that has got to be a sickening and tortuous memory. Town officials are captured on camera in low voices and subdued postures. No doubt they all feel some responsibility for an accident that was probably caused at least in part by a freeway-style speed limit on the cross street in a once-remote but increasingly more populated area.
I can’t begin to speculate on the outcome of this tragedy. Hopefully, who ultimately must take responsibility for what happened won’t require a judge and jury, and I cannot imagine how criminal or even civil actions could provide more of a punishment for the two adults who will bear the weight for their involvement in what happened. Then what outcome can we wish for or urge from this terrible occurence?
I believe there is a great deal of constructive benefit that can come from all of this tragedy. First, state officials will have to take note of the role high speed played in this accident, and lower the 55-mile-per-hour speed limit on the cross street. The increased traffic this roadway has seen due to the area’s population growth practically demands a more moderate limit. The town’s highway department will undoubtedly take action to trim back growth and other obstacles at this and many other intersections to improve better visibility of traffic signs and other vehicles.
And I would fervently pray that all drivers take far more seriously exactly what a stop sign means. I’ve ranted on more than one occaison about the lack of respect drivers have for that red octogon-shaped advisory. It’s possible that all Charlene did was slide past the sign into the intersection and caught the speeding F-150. I do not want to speculate on what she could have done differently–that kind of hindsight serves no one. It’s enough to say we all ought to try a lot harder to make sure we’ve done all we can to keep ourselves and other drivers out of harm’s way.
I believe all of us need to ask ourselves one unnerving question–what if it had been me? What if I had done something, no matter how benign, that took the life of my child? What if I had to learn how to live after that? Only after having the courage to honestly pose question can we hope to avoid more of this kind of wasted life. Drive safely…

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